Last week I worked with a woman, Sherry, who seemed uncomfortable. I thought it was what we were talking about so I asked her if she was OK. She said she was uncomfortable in her clothes and wished she’d worn something different.
My grandma used to say, “It doesn’t matter how you feel, it’s how you look that’s important, and you look great!”
She laughed, I laughed and the energy shifted.
I’ve made this joke for years as a way to cheer someone up who’s not feeling well. This time it was different. It made me think about how quickly your energy can shift when you do something like laugh or connect with someone.
When you feel like you look good and you feel good, the two together create confidence that you project outward.
Imagine you’re on your way to a job interview and you’re nervous. What if a stranger complimented you on how you look?
You’d feel buoyed up with confidence!
When you leave the house in an outfit that you feel great in, you walk down the street with a bounce in your step. You smile more.
You’re more likely to speak up.
What about when you’re in a meeting and you want to say something, but that nagging voice in your head is telling you that you’re not experienced enough to contribute AND you’re worried that your blouse is too tight?
I’m convinced that what you’re wearing matters.
Lately I’ve decided that Steve Jobs had it right by deciding early on that he would wear jeans and a black sweater every single day. Look at photos of him for years and years. He put no effort into his clothes and he looked good every day. He felt good in that outfit every day.
I wear the same navy v-neck sweater in every video I do. I know it looks good and is never distracting on video. I’ve had people comment on it when I do live webinars, “Melissa, you’re wearing the same thing you wear in your videos!” Yes , that’s purposeful.
Want to learn more about clothes and confidence? I wrote an article about this for Fairygodboss that you might like: Here’s How Following A Dress Code At Work Can Lead You To A Promotion https://fairygodboss.com/articles/dress-code
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