When my son was little, we made crazy Valentine’s Day cards with silly sayings like “Tank you for being my friend” (printed on paper with a picture of a tank) and “Wheel you be my Valentine?” tied to the wheel of hot wheel car.
Ah, the simplicity of a 1st grader’s Valentine’s Day!
This is day of complex emotions about love. Whether or not you celebrate Valentines Day, it’s in the news, social media and everywhere you look in the US on 2/14.
A lot of people hate it.
A lot of people love it.
Wherever you come down on it, I like this perspective: find someone to love on today.
Because love is pretty awesome.
Send a note to a friend who is suffering or sad or sick or just feeling down. Send them some love.
Give extra friendly smiles to the cashiers, toll collectors, mail delivery people and people on the street.
If you’re hanging out with someone special, be it a spouse, partner, kids or friends, find something new to do to celebrate love. Forget flowers or chocolate and follow this advice from Christine Carter on Questions to Bring You Closer. If you don’t have time to click through now, this blog post gives you 36 questions from researcher Arthur Aron and his colleagues that they used in the lab to create profound feelings of being in love.
Here are the first 6 questions:
- Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
- Would you like to be famous? In what way?
- If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
- Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
- Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “
- Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
I’ve written before about using games like Table Topics to open new avenues of conversation with people you have a hard time connecting with. You can use them with the people you love, too, to get to know one another in a fresh new way.
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