IN HER WORDS…HOW CONNECTOR CONVERSATIONS HELPED
“I WAS ABLE TO GET CLEAR.”
I was trying to form a professional relationship with someone whose communication style was so different from my own that we were talking around each other rather than with each other. The relationship was so frustrating that I planned to turn down an otherwise incredible opportunity with the company to avoid having to work with this man.
“I CHANGED MY MIND-SET”
Melissa gave me the confidence and support I needed at the right moment. She gave me a mantra: ‘my perfect job is waiting for me’ and it was! I have been happily employed for over 2 months now in a job I love!
Speaking to Melissa changed my mind-set to attract the perfect opportunity for ME.
– Annette L., Executive Assistant, Asset Management
“I INCREASED MY CONFIDENCE”
I had developed the habit of assuming what others wanted to hear and apologizing unnecessarily. Working with Melissa helped me to see how my over-apologizing was giving away my power and that I needed to not allow my fear of upsetting others to motivate me.
Now I remind myself to be mindful of my choices, and feel confident in what I am doing, without assuming where other people are coming from.
I learned to be curious, to ask rather than to jump to conclusions.
The roleplaying that we did was incredibly helpful as it prepared me for a challenging conversation with a colleague.
Working with Melissa increased my confidence and equipped me with strong communication skills to be more successful at work.
– Paula M., third grade teacher
Melissa helped me realize that the gender bias in my corporate job wasn’t just ME being overly sensitive, and I wasn’t crazy for noticing the differences.
“HELPED ME PLAN FOR WHAT’S NEXT”
I was certain that I was ready for what was next in my work but I did not know exactly what that was. I had 8-years and a positive relationship with my boss that I wanted to keep whole as I was thinking about leaving.
Melissa helped me think through how to position that change with my boss so that she perceived my intention to move on as positive and I was able to keep that long term relationship intact.
Going into the conversation, I knew what the outcome was that I wanted but I needed to be purposeful in my approach and Melissa’s thoughtful questions and actively listening helped me get there.”
Lisha Driscoll, Program Manager, Wealth Management Technology
“I GOT CURIOUS INSTEAD OF CAVING IN”
Using the skills you taught me worked so well, and so easily, that it was almost unbelievable.
A long-standing client of mine asked me to change a certain way I communicated. Instead of getting defensive, or immediately caving in to their demands (a habit I’ve always had!), I followed what you taught me, took a deep breath, and got CURIOUS. I asked a question instead.
In the end my client told me, “Keep doing what you’ve always done!”
I am so grateful for the simplicity and efficacy of what you taught me; it’s made it possible for me to maintain my editorial (and personal!) integrity with this client, and empowered me to continue to use what you teach with my other clients. My next step is to ask my biggest client for a project increase: stay tuned!
– Ruth D., Content Editor at Walmart eCommerce
When Melissa presented recently at the VenturePad, it was obvious she had years of expertise training on the topic of negotiations. At the same time, the insights and tools she shared were fresh and easy to pick up. It was fun, engaging, and I’ve already used her approach to successfully navigate my toughest collaborative partnerships.
Michael Giotis, Program Director, VenturePad